No one is exempt from loss, the kind that affects our heart and stirs up a wide range of emotions. Each significant loss affects us in ways we never imagined, requiring difficult
adjustments– ones we never wanted to make. Is there a shortcut through this painful time of grief?

If only there were. A magic wand would be mighty handy just now.

But alas, the truth is that facing grief is the only way to heal it. Support makes the crucial difference. It is just too hard to try and do alone.

Friends, church groups, etc. may be helpful. And a Grief Coach (not a therapist – this is not a mental illness) can help you sort out those overwhelming emotions. Trained to understand and anticipate your needs, these compassionate professionals are there to truly acknowledge and validate your individual grieving process, while helping to heal the emotional pain.

It is of foremost importance that we do face and deal with grief, It’s not enough to just get busy, deny it or stuff it. There is compelling evidence that unresolved emotions eventually show up in the body as physical disease. Therefore, allowing time to fully express grief is a necessary part of the process.

The power of letting it out
More often than not expressing grief means crying or actually wailing out loud. This is not a time to protect others by being quiet. For privacy, one idea is to park your car near a loud place like a freeway or beach and just let it out. Another idea is to turn up the volume on some music, either in the car or at home.

The value of voicing your grief is so powerful that in some cultures, wailing (also known as
keening) is done by professionals hired to aid the family. It may sound foreign or even scary to your own ears, but anyone who has fully grieved will recognize the sound as not
only perfectly normal but helpful too.

With help and guidance from those who have been there and have specific training, we do heal and experience surprising transformation.

Learn more
About Dhyanis and her approach to healing grief
How to love more and hurt less
Tips for supporting a grieving friend

“You are what you love and you love whatever you are giving
your attention to.”
~ Emanuel Swedenborg

Have you ever said, “I can’t help thinking that . . . “? But can we help it? True, we “think” of our conscious mind as logical, as in “if this, then that must follow,” without any hint of our participation or power to change outcomes.

We generally have not been taught that our mind is a powerful tool which can be used as a creative instrument. In fact it is always creating, according to our beliefs and thoughts. Therefore if we feed it positive beliefs and thoughts we can move out of bondage of negative experiences (and preordained outcomes) and into manifesting our full potential on this ride we call life!

“You cannot simultaneously be worrying about life, and
still feel you are fully supported and completely taken care of..”
~ From You Are What You Love by Vaishali

Gratitude is one of the best mind foods available. Since, when you focus on something you appreciate, you cannot be simultaneously be feeling lack, wishing things could be different, or dwelling in the past. When you are worried, you are “loving” worrying, and creating more things to be worried about.

When you are actively grateful, you are “loving” the gifts life has given or is giving you, and magically creating more things for which to be grateful. Our mind never quits and is constantly creating from the raw material we feed into it.

“Our thoughts go out from us like ripples in a pond.”
~ From Meditations to Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

Choosing gratitude every day, even when we have lost someone, our own health or capacity we once had, is the most powerful example of “the gift that keeps on giving.” Those grateful thoughts ripple outward, affecting every relationship, all of our own cells and functions, and our sense of abundance. If we truly are what we love (or give our attention to), then we can consciously choose what we are in every present moment.

Need help breaking a downward cycle and finding the positive in your life? Learn more about my compassionate approach and free introductory phone session.

A recipe for discovering happiness, even in the midst of grief? Forgive everyone and treat yourself like your own best friend.

Concentrate on self care and follow these six tips to access your own innate power to love!

1. Make sure you’re getting enough rest and drinking enough water to keep you hydrated.
2. If you are grieving, release your grief by crying freely. When that wave passes, start having fun. Laughter and joy are the best medicines for the blues.
3. Find some purposeful pleasure like a walk in the woods.
4. Try listening to uplfting music or call a friend for a movie or brunch.
5. Get plenty of enjoyable exercise, like a dance or yoga class.
6. Have more than one session with your Grief Coach. They will help you come to a peaceful place during this time.If you don’t have the support of a Grief Coach this would be a great time to start working with one.

Another great resource:
 Zero Limits – The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace,
and More, by Dr. Joe Vitale

More about Dhyanis’s grief coaching services.